4 essential self-care habits of highly effective people
Regardless of where your stress comes from, having the tools to build up resilience so that you can handle what comes at you is a very important part of maintaining optimal health. This is when the conversation turns to self-care: what do those two words mean to you?
In perhaps the least effective sense, self-care is used to talk a lot about self-indulgent kinds of routines. Forms of self-care like bubble baths or massages aren’t bad by any means, but that definition does take away the value of having a real self-care routine.
What is self-care? Self-care is: doing things that make you feel more like yourself
Self-care doesn’t involve ignoring what’s going on in the world or opting out of difficult situations, it’s giving yourself the support you need to participate in these things.
Self-compassion has been proven in research to have positive effects on wellness. Having a self-compassionate practice can be simple and short, to develop thought patterns that help you respond to yourself with kindness and understand that to be human is to make mistakes.
Consume positive media
While there’s something to be said about limiting your technology use, when you are using technology, it’s best to consume positive, uplifting media. While keeping up with the news is important, it’s OK to disconnect from it and allow yourself to participate in media that makes you feel good.
Here are some examples to consider:
- John de Ruiter: a spiritual mentor who offers insight into life through discussions and podcasting and other media. He provides online live streams and events surrounding connection, conversation, spirituality, meaning, and much more. He is also an accomplished author.
- Oprah’s Super Soul Sundays is an Emmy award-winning daytime series on OWN that provides insight and inspiration from renowned thought leaders.
- Bruce Harold Lipton is an American development biologist noted for his beliefs on epigenetics. In his popular book, The Biology of Belief, he claims that beliefs control human biology, rather than DNA or inheritance.
Know and acknowledge when you need to rest
Many of us know that we need to rest, yet somehow feel unable to give ourselves permission to do it, perhaps feeling it’s selfish or there’s simply too much to do.
Try framing it as what advice you would give to a dear friend or your child if they were exhausted. You would probably tell them and even plead with them, to rest and know that it isn’t selfish to do so. Whether it’s only five minutes of breathing in the afternoon, getting away from the screens, getting fresh air, or having a full day of doing the things that make you feel more like yourself. It’s important.
Move your body
Sometimes, exhaustion comes from being inactive and not moving our bodies. Movement can be anything from a quick walk to yoga, or Pilates – just something that gets your blood pumping like a run or a hike. When you connect movement to self-care, rather than trying to look a certain way or accomplish a specific goal, you’ll notice what a huge difference it makes. When you’re feeling burned out and stressed, remember that there is so much power in movement and by taking those first steps, even when you don’t feel like it, you’re caring for yourself. Make sure to move your body, even if you don’t feel like doing it at the time.